By Trish Pannuto & Colleen Reed
An 8th grader disinterested in her household chore, accusing Mom of being “too picky,” and a Mom growing increasingly frustrated with her “lackadaisical” teenager.
Does this story sound familiar? The Mom asked Carolyn Hax for advice, who promptly (and to our delight) suggested she turn to PEP to find some balance in her household.
At PEP, we hear versions of this same story every day from parents of preschoolers through teens. Parents describe scenes of defiance, disrespect, power struggles, tantrums, yelling, and laziness.
“How do I get my child to listen and cooperate?”
We appreciated several suggestions Carolyn shared that are also central tenets of PEP’s parenting philosophy:
As Carolyn Hax said so artfully in her article, “A loving and forgiving household is the ideal teacher of community values — where the roles are clear, the consequences are natural, the respect is mutual, the battles are judiciously picked and the police state is unnecessary.” If you missed Carolyn’s recent article, you can find it here.
Here at PEP, we’re often quoted as saying that “love is instinctual, but parenting is not.” If you’re like any of the thousands of parents who have come through one of our parenting classes, you’ll find new perspectives and inspiration to create better connections with your child.
Without the constraints of the school schedule, summer can be a great time to hand over some responsibilities. To learn how, join us online in May for either of our 4-week master classes: