Welcome to PEPTalk! This blog is all about parenting – including tips, great articles and updates on our class offerings. The conversation is for parents and others who want to raise healthy, cooperative, thriving children. Raising children to thrive isn’t easy, especially when those children regularly mess up our plans for their success. We learn the art of parenting from each other, and our PEPTalk blog is here to help—with tips, tools, talk and encouragement—as well as updates about PEP’s many educational programs.
Our bloggers are like our class leaders (many of them are class leaders)—parents who have found at PEP support, inspiration and a sensible road map for the journey. They’ll share their unique perspectives and experiences, connected by their deep commitment to helping you be the parent you want to be. We invite you to join the conversation.
Whether it’s societal pressure (thanks social media) or a family history of well-intended values, we tend to place a great deal of emphasis on outcomes and less value on effort. The outcomes, whether it’s making the honor roll or a litany of college acceptances, convey a sense of status or prestige. What if we focused more on noticing effort? Kids might feel more comfortable with making mistakes and accept that the journey is more important than the achievement.... read more>>
Parenting is hard. A friend of mine says unless it’s extremely challenging, you’re probably not doing it right. And that brings me to a recent morning when I wasn’t sure if I was doing it right. Cue flashback music. It’s 7:59 a.m. and I’m sitting in the car getting anxious. Our kids agreed to be here and ready to go by 8:00, but there’s no sign of them. In one minute, we’ll be late for school,... read more>>
“There’s A Hole In My Sidewalk: Autobiography In Five Short Chapters” by Portia Nelson Chapter I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in. I am lost … I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter II I walk down the same street.... read more>>
For many of us, the New Year is often coupled with resolutions — ideas about how we can improve ourselves, our families, our health, or even our professional life. Rather than focusing on how we could create a “new and improved self,” our time may be better spent reflecting back on the year, because, “if we don’t look back, how do we move forward?” Author Daniel Pink recently shared a blog post from Fast Company,... read more>>
There is nothing more uncomfortable than a meltdown or tantrum for parents and children alike; nothing more socially awkward than one that takes place in public. If you’re parenting a young child, the holiday season is an excellent time to review strategies for managing the inevitable. Tantrums most often occur with children under age 4 and are a normal part of child development. They’re often an expression of frustration when a child doesn’t yet have the verbal skills to express his or her needs and feelings.... read more>>
With the hustle and bustle of the holiday season well underway, it’s not unusual for parents and kids alike to feel stressed. Parents are tired of the prepping and schlepping, kids may be ready for a break from the routine of homework and school, and everyone is keeping a busier-than usual social schedule. Despite what you see on your Facebook or Instagram feed, all families feel stress. Remember, social media posts are the highlight reel;... read more>>
Here at PEP, one activity we do early on in many of our classes is the “Out of the Nest” exercise. In this group exercise, parents brainstorm a list of qualities they might like their children to have by the age of 18. Below is an actual list generated by one class. It’s typical of those brainstormed by most parents — whether they’re parenting preschoolers, school age children or teens. Independent Cooperative Kind Healthy Self-Confident Resilient Have self-worth Happy Use good judgment Curious Responsible Apparently,... read more>>
Middle School is full of angst, for our kids and for us! As parents, we are suddenly filled with self-doubt. Should I stay involved and continue to volunteer at school? Do I chaperone field trips — my kid LOVED that in 3rd grade? Alternatively, do I totally back-off and give them lots of space? Are sleepovers okay if I haven’t met the parents? What about devices and social media? How much homework help do I give them?... read more>>
Where did the fall go?! Here in Montgomery County, Maryland, Friday marks the end of the first marking period for county school students. This presents parents the opportunity to practice our encouragement skills as we consider how we’ve handled report cards in the past and how we might do so a little differently this time. Keeping in mind that kids are excellent observers but poor interpreters,... read more>>
Editor’s Note: This list was excerpted from an article, It’s My Life — But My Parents Won’t Butt Out! that appeared in Washington Parent magazine in September 2019. After you finish chuckling, read the article to learn how to help your tween or teen navigate their social life! Are you looking for the fastest way to build a wedge as large as a crater between you and your child?... read more>>
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