Welcome to PEPTalk! This blog is all about parenting – including tips, great articles and updates on our class offerings. The conversation is for parents and others who want to raise healthy, cooperative, thriving children. Raising children to thrive isn’t easy, especially when those children regularly mess up our plans for their success. We learn the art of parenting from each other, and our PEPTalk blog is here to help—with tips, tools, talk and encouragement—as well as updates about PEP’s many educational programs.
Our bloggers are like our class leaders (many of them are class leaders)—parents who have found at PEP support, inspiration and a sensible road map for the journey. They’ll share their unique perspectives and experiences, connected by their deep commitment to helping you be the parent you want to be. We invite you to join the conversation.
The PEP office often feels like a language lab. Amid sounds of a colleague practicing her Japanese for an upcoming trip to Kyoto, we see parents donning their “headsets” and getting to work learning the language of encouragement. Just as we start by learning short, everyday phrases in a new foreign language, equipping parents with […]... read more>>
Have you ever had the experience of your child trying to get your attention, not succeeding and then taking their efforts up a disturbing notch? I was recently working with a parent who went through this very experience. The question was, “how do we handle these moments in a way that respects both parent and […]... read more>>
Parent: “Time to brush your teeth.” Child: “No!” Parent: “You don’t want to get cavities, do you?” Child: “No brush!” Parent: “Come on, let’s just get this done.” Child: “Noooooo!!!!!” At some point, most young children go on strike from tooth-brushing, clamping their jaws shut and refusing to let their parents come near them with […]... read more>>
Benefits of the family meal According to the FamilyDinnerProject.org, having shared family experiences on a consistent, weekly basis has immense benefits for children, regardless of how fancy the meal is. Studies show that children who grow up having regular family meals have higher academic performance with an increased vocabulary level; improved eating habits and health […]... read more>>
Playful Parenting is a way to enter a child’s world, on the child’s terms, in order to foster closeness, confidence, and connection.” -Lawrence Cohen, “Playful Parenting” Chances are, you don’t always enjoy playing with your child – especially when you are busy, tired or the imagination game she likes to play isn’t your idea of […]... read more>>
Eight-year-old Maya begs to stay up later because she wants to watch TV or play a game. Her mother, Isabel, often gives in because she thinks her own parents were too strict, and she wants to be a different kind of parent. Maya often gets cranky and sleepy during the day, and cajoling her leads […]... read more>>
“You don’t know what you’re talking about!” “This sucks!” “Leave me alone!” Could these words possibly be coming from the loving angel who used to cling to you, every minute of every day? Raging hormones and a reorganizing brain can make our teenage children temporarily unrecognizable. These physiological changes reduce teens’ ability to regulate and […]... read more>>
Ten-year-old Johnny bursts into the house at 7:45. “What’s for dinner? I’m starving!” “I can’t believe you’re home late again!” his mom yells. “This is the second time this week! You know we have dinner at seven. We ate, and the dishes are done!” “But, I’m really hungry, Mom. I was having such a good […]... read more>>
“You’re always … [uncooperative]!” “You never … [pick up your clothes].” “You make me … [furious].” How many times a day do you find yourself saying or thinking these kinds of things about your kids? Or these kinds of things about yourself: “I should … [be folding the piles of laundry right now].” “I have to … [drive soccer carpool, again].” […]... read more>>
Very frequently, the question “Why?” serves as a parent’s launching pad for critical or accusatory questioning: “Why can’t you sit still?” “Why don’t you ever listen?” “Why did you do that?” These questions are less requests for information than expressions of parental anger and a form of verbal punishment. The resounding message of disapproval triggers […]... read more>>