Welcome to PEPTalk! This blog is all about parenting – including tips, great articles and updates on our class offerings. The conversation is for parents and others who want to raise healthy, cooperative, thriving children. Raising children to thrive isn’t easy, especially when those children regularly mess up our plans for their success. We learn the art of parenting from each other, and our PEPTalk blog is here to help—with tips, tools, talk and encouragement—as well as updates about PEP’s many educational programs.
Our bloggers are like our class leaders (many of them are class leaders)—parents who have found at PEP support, inspiration and a sensible road map for the journey. They’ll share their unique perspectives and experiences, connected by their deep commitment to helping you be the parent you want to be. We invite you to join the conversation.
I smile now, reflecting on my futile attempts to use time out with my headstrong and persistent 3-year-old. I would say, “Time out,” and he would ask, “What is my consequence?” This required me to think on my feet, usually making some lame attempt like no screen time today. He would ponder the proposal and then decide whether it was worth it to him to continue with the behavior in question rather than comply. When he’d up the ante,... read more>>
Over the Thanksgiving weekend I read a Wall Street Journal article, The Right Way for Parents to Question Their Teenagers. With two kids home from college and as someone involved with PEP for 18 years, I was intrigued. The article begins by pointing out how difficult it can be to get teens to open up and goes on to cite the evidence supporting the notion “that maintaining open communication with adolescents is crucial to their mental health and well-being.... read more>>
Thanksgiving is that time of year. It’s when those of us with perfectionist tendencies wrestle with ourselves about how much to do (and not do) in our quest for the perfect holiday. I typically find myself selecting recipes in search of a bountiful Thanksgiving feast, rushing around to buy ingredients, and spending the day in the kitchen cooking the meal by myself. When we eventually sit down at the table, my exhaustion overwhelms the atmosphere of conviviality I was hoping for.... read more>>
Learn to “automate the predictable” with these tips from author Julie Morgenstern for organizing cooking, laundry and other chores. Watch the 30 second video here.... read more>>
Check out this formula for finding balance from this fall’s Noted Parenting Author Julie Morgenstern. Watch the video on Facebook by clicking here. Then join us on November 15th when Julie will join us online to talk more about this her recently released book, Time to Parent. You can register at PEPparent.org/NPAS — and if you can’t join us live, don’t worry — we’ll send you the recording!... read more>>
Halloween brings many happy memories including time with family and friends and stuffing oneself full of all kinds of goodies. As parents, some of us struggle with how to balance the fun, the candy and good limits for the holiday. Kids grow, and eventually the cute little pumpkin bag is traded out for the pillowcase. Then what’s a parent to do? As many of us have found out the hard way, if candy is a focus of control it can set us up for power struggles.... read more>>
As any perfectionist will tell you, advice to just “know when good enough is good enough” or “take it easy” fall on deaf ears. Asking a perfectionist to quit being a perfectionist is like asking a bird to quit flying; it’ll never work. Between career, family, friends and romance, the parenting years are the most time stretched years of a human’s life. Perfectionists have a tendency to do something flawlessly or not at all.... read more>>
Julie Morgenstern, an organizing consultant and best-selling author, was named by USA Today as “The Queen of Putting Things in Order.” Her most recent book is Time to Parent: Organizing Your Life to Bring Out the Best in Your Child and You. She will present a webinar as part of PEP’s Noted Parenting Author Series on Thursday, November 15, at 8 pm Eastern. Katherine Reynolds Lewis,... read more>>
The PEP office often feels like a language lab. Amid sounds of a colleague practicing her Japanese for an upcoming trip to Kyoto, we see parents donning their “headsets” and getting to work learning the language of encouragement. Just as we start by learning short, everyday phrases in a new foreign language, equipping parents with encouragement phrases to practice puts the words in their mouth and, eventually, commits those words to muscle memory.... read more>>
Have you ever had the experience of your child trying to get your attention, not succeeding and then taking their efforts up a disturbing notch? I was recently working with a parent who went through this very experience. The question was, “how do we handle these moments in a way that respects both parent and child and also teaches children how to get what they need in healthy ways?” Here’s what happened: This young daughter was trying to get her mom’s attention.... read more>>