Welcome to PEPTalk! This blog is all about parenting – including tips, great articles and updates on our class offerings. The conversation is for parents and others who want to raise healthy, cooperative, thriving children. Raising children to thrive isn’t easy, especially when those children regularly mess up our plans for their success. We learn the art of parenting from each other, and our PEPTalk blog is here to help—with tips, tools, talk and encouragement—as well as updates about PEP’s many educational programs.
Our bloggers are like our class leaders (many of them are class leaders)—parents who have found at PEP support, inspiration and a sensible road map for the journey. They’ll share their unique perspectives and experiences, connected by their deep commitment to helping you be the parent you want to be. We invite you to join the conversation.
Angst, inspiration, change, feeling stuck, solutions, confusion—it’s all there in a PEP class. One brave participant brings up a problem or concern and we grapple with it, dissect it, generate possible solutions, new perspectives, and a little light of encouragement and humor shines down on all of us. When parents hear and empathize with one another and share what they know, the circle of understanding and creativity expands. This is the power and energy in a human group.... read more>>
Session 5, on Consequences, is over and the condition known as “the mid-PEP blues” has descended upon our circle. We started class last week with a hefty dose of discouragement. We know enough to see that bossing kids around, or letting them boss us around, is not effective. However, the skills that we are learning aren’t flowing naturally yet. It doesn’t even occur to us that we are in a power struggle until after we have yelled or shamed our beloved child AGAIN over teeth brushing,... read more>>
Google Launches YouTube Kids I know kids love YouTube, although, being the parent of teenagers, I was a bit surprised to learn that YouTube is also a hit with the preschool and early elementary school crowd. While YouTube rejects inappropriate content, there can be some pretty dodgy videos out there that younger children inadvertently find. Parents asked, and Google listened, this week launching an app for iOS and Android that provides kid-friendly content—both educational and entertaining—with easy parental controls including a timer and the ability to disable the background music.... read more>>
PEP I, Session 4 is about misbehavior and new ways to think about it, respond to it and deal with it. Our class spent 75 percent of the time grappling with the perennial parent-child power struggle. Here’s a partial list of what we talked about. We know when we are in a power struggle when the struggle is repeated, we feel angry and we want to make someone do something. Power struggles are a natural part of people living with people.... read more>>
Too cold to go out and play ball? Chop the wood and stoke the fire for these long winter chats! Brian Williams Suspended; Jon Stewart to Exit The Daily Show Recently NBC Nightly News Anchor Brian Williams was suspended after having reported a false story. This announcement was quickly followed by the news that Jon Stewart will be stepping down from The Daily Show. Topical news stories such as these create a welcome opportunity for discussions about values such as ethics and trust.... read more>>
This blog entry was first posted at Good Digital Parenting, a project of the Family Online Safety Institute (FOSI) designed to help parents, teachers and kids to connect, share and do good online. Seeing how addicted children and teens can become to their smartphone, tablet, laptop and video games, it’s hard for parents to not be concerned. The Internet can be a perfect escape route for a teen who perceives a lack of valued relationships with peers,... read more>>
The third session of PEP I: Parenting 5 to 12 Year Olds is entirely devoted to the art of encouragement. We learn that encouragement is low-key, best done one-on-one, notices improvement, works with strengths (as opposed to against weaknesses) and is most successful when given liberally to both our kids and ourselves. Encouragement is not judgmental, critical, sarcastic, blaming, loud or effusive. Encouragement does not dismiss or deny feelings,... read more>>
100 Parenting Experts to Follow What better way to begin a holiday weekend than with this shout out from Dr. Lynne Kenney (@DrLynneKenney)! We’re honored to be included in this list of 100 Parenting Experts to Follow on Twitter, along with Alyson Schafer, Michele Borba, Amy McCready, Dr. Laura Markham and PEP Noted Author (2013) Rosalind Wiseman. If you’re not already following us on Twitter you can find us @PEPparent.... read more>>
Session 2 of PEP I is so much fun. We plan parties, share our birth order in our families of origin, reflect on temperaments and experience parenting styles in action. The class members are getting to know each other; there is conversation and laughter. All is right with the world. We do a lively demonstration of parenting styles where the leader is the “parent” and the participants are the “kids,” who are asked to make things out of clay.... read more>>
What “Can Do” kids can do, accentuating the positive, nonverbal communication, teen relationships and help for winter blahs are the topics that carried us through this week of frosty temps and biting winds. We invite you to curl up with a blanket and a hot drink and read these articles. 31 Things My Sons Should Be Able to Do Before They Move Out PEP’s Can Do Kids Fair is around the corner,... read more>>