By Trish Pannuto & Colleen Reed
Parenting provides endless opportunities to navigate feelings — those of our children and our own. Whether we’re dealing with a child, co-worker or partner, we often approach big feelings in one of two ways, either:
Though well-intentioned, neither of these natural inclinations are helpful, and both will likely amplify big feelings. So, what’s one to do?
One way parents can do this is to guess at what the child might be feeling. For a preschooler feeling anxious about morning drop off, the parent might say, “I wonder if you feel sad when I leave you at preschool?”
For an older child who returns from school chattering excitedly about a test a parent might ask: “You look ecstatic, is it possible that you did better on that test than you expected?”
And, for a dispirited teen, dropped from a group chat and excluded from a party: “I wonder if you’re feeling hurt, embarrassed, devastated” — it’s up to you to insert the appropriate word to reflect what the teen is projecting.
Understanding feelings and emotions is an essential part of child development. By giving names to feelings, we’re helping kids better understand them. Because it’s easy to fall into the habit of using common words like mad, sad, or glad, we’ve created this handy download, Putting Words to Feelings, that will help you expand their vocabulary!
Parenting isn’t easy and all of us could use some help sometimes.
Here are three ways you can tap into PEP today:
Parent Encouragement Program
10100 Connecticut Ave.
Kensington, MD 20895
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